In Defence of Femininity

Over the past few months, I've been examining myself and my identity as a woman. I've been looking at what I naturally value for myself, what modern culture expects from me, and what traditional values state. I'm a regular follower of the website Feelin' Feminine be it that I am not Christian or Jewish, and on the flip side I've watched videos by lacigreen and such on youtube for the opposite point of view, so I think I have a pretty good idea of both sides. I think I've got myself sorted out for the most part.

While, I'm not the most patriarchal person, because I've been given reason not to be, I do believe that men who actually do their job behaving like men and take on the responsibilities of men deserve to be recognized for their actions the same way women are emulated in the public world. I believe that if more positive messages were being given out to boys and men, telling them that being a man involves taking responsibility for women ei. not just sitting on the couch, possibly after a 9-5 workday, and demanding sex, then there would be less chaos in the private world. Reversely, I believe that women who "do too much", work a full day, take care of the kids, cook, clean, tend to their husband/boyfriend, aren't helping the situation either, because if they assume responsibility of everything, then the man isn't going to just suddenly becaume a chivalrous knight in shining armor for no reason.

I also support modesty rather than the "if you got it, flaunt it" mentality. Modesty makes me feel comfortable and secure in myself. It takes more than the right set of genitals to be a lady, and in the same way it takes more than a generous set of fabric over one's body to be modest. Modesty is more about drawing attention to oneself in a positive manner rather than a vulgar one. There is much more respect shown to a kind girl who can be percieved as beautiful without being outright sexual, rather than an outwardly confident and loud girl who makes use of nothing but her carnal appeal.

When it comes down to it, femininity is really a matter of perception. From every side of the spectrum, everyone's calling each other oppressed, overworked, undervalued, underappreciated, and asserting themselves sole as the "free" women of the world that don't face the plights that other women do. The best thing is to just evaluate the options, go with the most reasonable one, and ignore the backlash of different societies calling you crazy.

Goals for the Coming School Year

Well, it's almost that time of year again :-)

I'm entering my second year of high school. I have no problems with it and I'm expecting it to be more comfortable than last year First semester freshman year coming from a choice school was not fun. I did pretty well excluding geometry, an incompitent music teacher, and an astronomy teacher that I did not understand, but I regret not puting in my full effort in his class now. My primary objective this year is to get straight As and exceed in all my classes. I'm in all honors except for Phy ed (a useless waste of time if you ask me) and possibly Human Anatomy. I did pretty well last year in except for geometry where I got straight Bs.

My goals for the coming year that lead to my primary objective are to:

1. Use my time more efficiently. Do homework right after school and procrastinate on the internet and listening to music less often.

2. Be in bed around 10-11 and for certain before midnight. I hope this will help me wake up more easily and not sleep through my alarm. lol.

3. Continue helping my mother around the house as much as I have been doing over the summer.

4. Read more books and less fanfiction and manga. I really hate what fanfiction has been doing to my psyche, it's like going to a crude bar with bad food, drink, and company.

Happy school year to everyone else out in internet-land.